tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post2661338255853293453..comments2024-03-25T16:16:30.872-04:00Comments on YGB - יג"ב: Special Places in HellYosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-72614172322866038732017-09-25T19:14:30.936-04:002017-09-25T19:14:30.936-04:00haemtza.blogspot.comhaemtza.blogspot.comYosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-20556628560756049032017-09-25T16:14:37.956-04:002017-09-25T16:14:37.956-04:00To be clear, what I mean is which specific blogpos...To be clear, what I mean is which specific blogpost?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-26966429656974545362017-09-25T15:49:20.832-04:002017-09-25T15:49:20.832-04:00Pardon my ignorance which is the RHM blog? url?Pardon my ignorance which is the RHM blog? url?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-926069498014752012017-08-09T00:38:36.221-04:002017-08-09T00:38:36.221-04:00Agreed.Agreed.Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-78035820398192314992017-08-08T23:42:29.472-04:002017-08-08T23:42:29.472-04:00I'm sorry to hear about your son. Someone rece...I'm sorry to hear about your son. Someone recently told me he thinks the biggest problem with these types of issues is a lack of communication. Which seems to be the case in your situation. Another factor that comes to mind that may be relevant here are people who are "too busy" to deal with it yet are in the position of responsibility. It seems to me that a Rav or rebbe or whoever needs to take time and a lot of time talking to their talmidim building a personal kesher and relationship, inviting them to their homes. We have to treat each other like people and take the time to understand. How could they make time when struggling with parnassah and their own families? I don't know. But there are those who do it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-59987875378155633132017-08-07T19:12:08.028-04:002017-08-07T19:12:08.028-04:001. Agreed.
2. If they need to be removed, as a la...1. Agreed.<br /><br />2. If they need to be removed, as a last resort, the ejecting principal and staff must take acharayus in placing the student and tracking his or her progress. Not like the Rosh Yeshiva who spoke to me once in the two years my son was at his school, after a disastrous year with an ogre for a rebbe, nastily informing me that my son could not return for the following year, and that he had no further responsibility to the talmid.Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-81375170537153715892017-08-06T01:13:13.545-04:002017-08-06T01:13:13.545-04:00I think there are two issues being combined here t...I think there are two issues being combined here that should be addressed separately. <br />1. Academics should be secondary to derech eretz, middos, self esteem, and hashkafah. I think this isn't controversial. However the second point is more so.<br /><br />2. The second issue isn't spoken about totally openly but might be inferred by the bad friends and pizza shop. What should be done about students who are have inappropriate relationships with members of the opposite gender or otherwise doing things against halchah (drugs, media) which could influence other students.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-14406535346058541012017-08-04T09:40:57.400-04:002017-08-04T09:40:57.400-04:00Flatbush Mom: Try Jewish Center for Special Educat...Flatbush Mom: Try Jewish Center for Special Education, Google "Jewish Montessori schools," and Try Hebrew Academy for Special Children<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-74618593094379678982017-07-30T19:40:43.022-04:002017-07-30T19:40:43.022-04:00:-) 4:2 in my edition.:-) 4:2 in my edition.Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-17356003552329327462017-07-30T19:29:02.317-04:002017-07-30T19:29:02.317-04:00Baal haTurim this week 4:3.Baal haTurim this week 4:3.MiMedinat HaYamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12873881615861319718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-65095851939251313612017-07-30T18:43:01.559-04:002017-07-30T18:43:01.559-04:00Ein la'dayan elah mah she'einav ro'os....Ein la'dayan elah mah she'einav ro'os. If there are extenuating circumstances, I am sure in Shomayim they will take them into account.Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-65567513209143064342017-07-30T18:42:34.118-04:002017-07-30T18:42:34.118-04:00A comment on RHM's blog post:
flatbushmom • 3...A comment on RHM's blog post:<br /><br />flatbushmom • 37 minutes ago<br />I'm going through this right now with my daughter. She is in HS and not a good student and emotionally she is broken. I'm ready to throw in the towel and send her to public school. I work in one and the kids are treated way better than my daughter. It's disgusting and there is a special place in hell for a couple of principals, deans, and teachers that I could think of. I never write comments but this is a bit too close to home.Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-41689932567369958972017-07-30T18:39:54.858-04:002017-07-30T18:39:54.858-04:00Interview with Malky Klein's father:
https://...Interview with Malky Klein's father:<br /><br />https://s108.podbean.com/pb/4a3c9474adb635ded01ad41b31bae1d3/597e587b/data2/fs31/769564/uploads/headlines_7-29-17_part2-full.mp3Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-73440904357410244072017-07-30T18:09:09.437-04:002017-07-30T18:09:09.437-04:00There are many communities with no options. Lakewo...There are many communities with no options. Lakewood is obvious. But even in Brooklyn. Each sociological stratum offers relatively few options and it could be traumatic to jump to a different stratum. Certainly in a smaller town in Israel you have real problems.Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-13483322600099734082017-07-30T16:50:14.124-04:002017-07-30T16:50:14.124-04:00It isn't right to assign a special place in h...It isn't right to assign a special place in hell when you don't know the story. The specifics were altered as per the letter. Berelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11838242681477978356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-28591479910636182762017-07-30T10:43:41.818-04:002017-07-30T10:43:41.818-04:00Cross-posted from Haemtza: I'm going to ask a ...Cross-posted from Haemtza: I'm going to ask a very un-PC question: Sure, you are right that the schools and the other kids' parents share some blame. But what about *these* kids' parents? The old expression is "I wouldn't want to be in a club that didn't want me as a member." Don't these parents bear a little responsibility for pushing and pushing to get their kids into schools that didn't want them- to the exclusion of all others- which then, surprise, found a reason to throw them out? Aren't they, too, guilty of frumkeit and elitism?Nachumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-10850359894827472712017-07-28T12:52:12.184-04:002017-07-28T12:52:12.184-04:00Let us assume the facts are as stated. The famous ...Let us assume the facts are as stated. The famous video with Rav Shteinman (I have updated the post to include it) indicates that it happens.Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-14070745798061388872017-07-27T14:52:27.482-04:002017-07-27T14:52:27.482-04:00Above was from Shlomo MusayecAbove was from Shlomo MusayecUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10528671572393356776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-30196225424342106202017-07-27T14:51:47.238-04:002017-07-27T14:51:47.238-04:00I am not sure why demonization of parents (of othe...I am not sure why demonization of parents (of other students) is appopriate in this instance. We dont have all the facts and i would like to give a benefit of the doubt that the hanhala of the school has more sense than a plank of wood. In regards to school with lax policies when it come to their students, is that really a good approach in the long run? When should a child learn responsibility and consequense? Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10528671572393356776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-32650292758020521532017-07-27T01:53:05.708-04:002017-07-27T01:53:05.708-04:00$$$$ :-($$$$ :-(Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-58729450323917715702017-07-27T01:14:03.697-04:002017-07-27T01:14:03.697-04:00Well, why aren't you starting such a school in...Well, why aren't you starting such a school in your town?Stevennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-63812552846318428142017-07-26T15:56:42.354-04:002017-07-26T15:56:42.354-04:00I don't know why such schools are not everywhe...I don't know why such schools are not everywhere!Yosef Gavriel Bechhoferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10264311760560329892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11425001.post-56316243532825778812017-07-26T04:00:02.066-04:002017-07-26T04:00:02.066-04:00Thankfully in Jerusalem there is a Beis Yaakov for...Thankfully in Jerusalem there is a Beis Yaakov for girls who were kicked out of their Beis Yaakov.<br /><br />Run by Tzadkoniyos who put up with everything you can imagine, and really work hard on befriending the girls. (In the hope of influencing them, but it's not a precondition.)<br /><br />Clever people. E.g.: the dress code/uniform includes 3 different color hoodies (when possibly hoodies got them ejected from their previous place.). Or: No school on Friday, since they don't come anyways. Or: School only begins at 9:00 with special prizes for those who arrive before 10:00.Danny Schoemannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13242699287595683509noreply@blogger.com