I read on your blog that you think masturbation is selfish.
I am a young guy and enjoy doing it. From a psychological perspective it is a positive expression of sexuality.
The reason why it is my ultimate goal to stop is because that is the halachic reality.
However masturbation is completely normal and there is absolutely nothing perverted or selfish about it.
I would appreciate It if you explain what you mean, and if you thing I am entitled to disagree with you and still be considered an orthodox jew. Thanks for your time.
Sorry for the delay.
That you enjoy doing something does not make it right. The Rambam tells us that we must understand that to eat a ham sandwich is very pleasurable and enjoyable, and that we nevertheless refrain from it because of Ratzon Hashem.
If sexuality was given by God to his creatures as a means of bonding (not to mention procreation), I fail to see how how one can assert that solitary sexuality is a positive psychological activity.
Hence, I am not sure on what basis you assert it to be "normal." Perhaps by societal norms, but not by the norms expected of us by our Creator.
Since perversion is a societal norm, it is in constant flux and cannot be an objective measure. Homosexuality was once regarded by greater society as a perversion, and now it is not.
As to being selfish, the more proper term is self-centered.
You certainly are entitled to disagree with me and still be considered an Orthodox Jew. But your arguments here are based on self-validated premises, not on solid reasoning.
I am happy to continue the conversation. I will be blogging it, leaving you anonymous, of course.