Sunday, May 02, 2021

Rav Dessler on Hitting Children

Rav Dessler's letter on hitting children.
Michtav Me'Eliyahu vol. 3 pp. 360-362.
An English translation in two parts is at:


  1. Not quite R Shelomo Wolbe's זריעה ובניין בחינוך.

    I don't know how R Dovid raised his kids. But when he needed to rebuke a talmid, it was with a soft voice, holding his hand, and an attitude of "you and I both know you are much better than this."

    I tried this with my kids. I lack my rebbe's middos. I had to give it up because that affectionate stroking rapidly became squeezing arms too tight.